The Ernie Project

The Ernie Project no.7

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From Binder no. 1

Dated 27 Jan 91

Hello from the Pastor! (By Reverend Ernest Richter)


One of the most obvious truths about marriage is that the honeymoon is the best part. When the honeymoon is over you settle down to the drudgery of marriage. Now since that is true, then it’s clear that the first priority of any married couple is to keep the honeymoon alive. 

But does that mean that you then have to somehow live your married life in Hawaii or Acapulco? I hope not! That would put Mern and me in Palm Springs, which might as well be Saudi Arabia, as far as I’m concerned. No, you don’t have to live in the place where you homeymooned, you just have to live in the spirit and attitude of your honeymoon. You have to be in love, and be happy, and excited, and romantic, and optimistic, and care-free, and, well I think you know what I mean. 

But how can you maintain such a fantastic attitude in the real world of daily hum drum and routine? Well, it’s not that hard, really. All you have to do is continue to treat each other as you did when you first got married. You know, when you hugged and kissed a lot and continually told each other that you loved each other, and that you were the most beautiful or the handsomest creature in the universe, and that you would never leave each other, and that you couldn’t stand to be apart, and how the world was nicer and the future was brighter just because you had each other, and on and on and on. 

Now that’s not hard to do, is it? I should think not. You did it quite well once, so you can continue to do it now, or you can start doing it again if you need to. That’s all that’s required to keep the honeymoon alive; you just have to treat each other as you did back then. Keep giving her flowers and little gifts, and keep cooking him his favorite meals. Send each other love notes, and phone each other just to say, “I love you”!

I guarantee that if you do this you will not only keep the honeymoon alive, you will make that original honeymoon look like child’s play compared to the deep and mature and utterly satisfying marriage that succeeds it. -The End

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